OM Report: Tips for New OMers (Orgasmic Meditation) #11-#15
Day 45 of 100 days of Blogging
This is the 3rd Blogpost in a series.
The first 5 tips are here
Tips 6-10 are here
I have been working with a group of coaches in the Washington, DC area to teach Orgasmic Meditation classes, lead TurnOns and start a Women’s Circle to talk about OMing, sexuality and relationships. While researching some information, I found a Facebook page called the OM report where a male practitioner shared some tips for women who were beginning to OM. Lots of great reminders for the men, too.
In the next few blogs, I have broken down the tips with some personal comments from my experiences with OMing for 3 years.
OM is short for Orgasmic Meditation. It is a fifteen minute partnered practice that involves stroking the upper left hand quadrant of a woman’s clitoris for 15 minutes. OM is a practice between two people that has no goal except to feel what is happening in the moment. Connection. Sensation. Simplicity. Attention.
A frame is a moment in time during your OM, when you felt a physical sensation in your body. This includes temperature, texture, motion, pressure, color, and speed. Sharing a frame is a way to anchor the experience of the OM and the connection. One moment. Focusing on what is present vs what is not.
Some of the tips are for all OMers, some are for women, some are for monogamous OMing, some are for multiple partner OMer. As the saying goes, “Take what you like and leave the rest.”
I have OMed monogamously and with multiple partners. My additional comments refer to both experiences.
Tips for New OMers #11: Get support. Have an experienced OMer you know and trust … or an OM coach … observe one of your OMs with a stroker who is learning the ropes. Skype is an option for some women.
Notes from Andrea:
Other ways to get support.
*Join a Women’s Circle. It is a place to get to know the women and stay connected.
*Attend the Community OM DAY
*Stay for TurnON after the OM Circle and go to dinner with us
*Find out how long people have been OMing and connect with experienced OMers to ask questions.
*If something happens in a private OM and something seems “off” contact one of the leaders in the community.
*Get onto the OM Hub.
*Watch OM videos (we have posted some in here.)
*Hire a coach for OM training.
Tips for New OMers #12: Drugs and alcohol impair the ability to make and keep – let alone remember – clean agreements. OM sober – make sure your partner is as well.
Notes from Andrea: At TurnOns, OM Circles, Community OM Days, in OM Houses it is a policy to be drug and alcohol free. OM is a practice of simplicity, attention, connection. The element of drugs and alcohol of any kind is adding something to the OM. Also, we are waking up our feelings and sensations. So, OM Sober.In the OM Houses, there are potluck dinners and OM Circles. They are always drug and alcohol free. If anyone wants to go out afterwards, they are free to do that. Just not in the House and not connected to OMing.
Tips for New OMers #13: Keep an OM journal. Keep it safe and under your direct control. If you can keep an audio or video OM journal as well. You would be surprised how different you sound / look in a year of OMing!
Tips for New Female OMers #14: Consider keeping a separate Pussy Journal as well … health, appetite, moods, colors. Keep it safe … and under your direct control.OM
Tips for New Female OMers #15: The exact number of OMs you have isn’t important. And … broad numbers can be helpful. An OMer with fewer then 10 OMs will likely have different experiences / questions … then one with 25-ish … 50-ish … 100-ish … 500-ish … 1000-ish … 2500-ish. Generally, I hear similar learnings / issues arise in roughly the same range of OMs. It can be helpful when discussing your practice with other OMers to be able to approximate the number of OMs you have completed. And it gives you a rough experience marker to gauge a new stroker by. Strokers under 25 OMs will demonstrate different skill levels (generally) … then ones with 100+ OMs.
Notes from Andrea:
Keeping a journal is a way to deepen your practice. To bring more awareness to the changes in your body, mind spirit. It will help you to notice and also stay connected to OM as a practice. You may notice trends like stillness, high sensation, emotions, when you feel a new spot on the clit. You may notice that after 25-50 OMs something shifts in your life. Personally and professionally. You may notice that the way you interact with your family or co-workers is different.
I record date and 1st name of stroker and a sensation. Sometimes you notice that whenever you OM with “M” you get ideas for your business or you feel calmer. There is no right or wrong. It is information. Just like any practice, the more you engage, the more you wake up to more of who you really are.
Tips #16-#20 will be posted on Nov 21
Andrea Hylen believes in the power of our voice to usher in a new world. She is the founder of Heal My Voice, an organization that inspires women and men to heal a story, reclaim personal power and step into greater leadership. Andrea discovered her unique gifts while parenting three daughters and learning to live life fully after the deaths of her brother, son and husband. In addition to serving as Heal My Voice’s Executive Director, Andrea is an Orgasmic Meditation Teacher and Sexuality Coach.
She is following her intuition as she collaborates with women and men in organizations and travels around the world speaking, teaching and leading workshops. Her passion is authentically living life and supporting others in doing the same. To connect with Andrea and learn about current projects go to: www.andreahylen.com and www.healmyvoice.org.